Simple test: I started several KDE-based apps and several GTK-based apps. What I see in System Guard:
Noatun - VmSize=39Mb, VmRss=24Mb right after start
Gimp - VmSize=20Mb, VmRss=16Mb before loading image
Gimp - VmSize=27Mb, VmRss=23Mb after loading image
XMMS - 30Mb, 5Mb
Juk - 30Mb, 16Mb
Is simple audio player Noatun needs more memory then Gimp for example? So I will always use XMMS instead of it.
KDE is best desktop now by its usability and features, but so much memory usage isn't so good. Or I don't understand something?